![]() ![]() It also has to do with giving and receiving. However the more we behave in this way the more we actually feel rejected and neglected by others. ![]() And now as a way to avoid reliving these painful memories, we use these coping mechanisms.īeing distant or withdrawn allows one to feel a sense of safety and that there is no chance of rejection. If the experience is really traumatic, it can leave us with these feelings that colour our whole experience and cause us to filter our whole life this way. As a child we will naturally have moments when are parents or caregivers are not available for us, and we can take these to mean a withdrawal of love and as absolutes. Possible causes to such behaviour could result from being ignored or rejected during younger years. A way for an individual to avoid the perceived or real experience of rejection. When it comes to being cool and distant, I see these as being behaviours that are nothing more than coping mechanisms. What I am describing here, are the proclivities of someone and not isolated occurrences. Of course someone has to start a conversation and there might be instances when talking to someone might not be to the best of ones interests. These behaviours can make someone look arrogant and ignorant and as if they think they are above or better than others. The typical behaviour is of the person that will only make contact or express a greeting when they are spoken to by others and won’t make an effort to engage with others and initialize interactions themselves.Īnother example is when one engages with another and the response is one of distance and coldness. There are many examples that come to mind when I think of aloof behaviour, however there are a few common examples that come to mind. Looking over what causes the not friendly or forthcoming and cool or distant behaviour. With this analysis I am going to be explaining the first part of the definition. Or conspicuously uninvolved and uninterested, typically through distaste. The definition in a dictionary is something along these lines - Not friendly or forthcoming cool and distant. These are not the right or only reasons and just my current views. ![]() So here, based on my experience and observation, I will describe what I believe are some of the reasons for such behaviour. And with my recent expression through writing, felt it was time to talk about this interesting and often confusing area of behaviour. This is an area I have been reflecting on for many years, pondering and asking myself why such behaviour exists. ![]()
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